Hello everyone, this is the concluding part of the
mail and the entire HK Editorial Team finds
ourselves sick to the stomach after reading.
He (or It?) is absolute revolting. This is
part 3 of 3
CYCLES OF AFFECTIONS, REJECTION AND
RECONCILIATION
Fair enough, during this period, there were occasions where Mr G would shower Ms J with love, dazzling her with flowers, just like the early days of their relationship.
Despite that, Ms J's life with Mr G was a never-ending rollercoaster of emotional turmoil. Every day felt like a new challenge, in which Ms J described it to be like walking through a minefield. One wrong step she took would set Mr G off to unleash a torrent of criticism and rejection. Just when she thought she could endure no more after weeks of stonewalling, he would suddenly transform, apologize to her and ask for forgiveness. Sometimes, he would also play victim, causing Ms J to empathise with him and pulling Ms J back to him.
However, Ms J knew all too well that this relief from conflict was temporary, as the cycle would inevitably repeat itself. The uncertainty of it all was almost unbearable, a constant reminder that she was powerless in the face of her husband's unpredictable moods.
DIVORCE AND HURT EGO
Throughout these 3 years of anguish, it was my friend and the other WDs who supported Ms J patiently. They encouraged her warmly and guided her back to the Gohonzon. Using Sensei’s guidance, they shared with her there was no escape nor fast solution to solve this issue, but to face it head-on so that she can transform her karma into mission. As she continued to strengthen her faith and chanted an hour of daimoku every day, she developed a life state that is not easily affected by his every mood.
During this period, the YMDs and MDs had also provided Mr G a fair share of support by continuously trying to engage him, whom they regarded as their comrades since their YMD days. They encouraged him and chanted with him to help him break through his own fundamental darkness.
Eventually, by January 2022, the couple decided to go for separation. Despite verbally agreeing to the divorce, Mr G had begun to harbour plans to make things difficult for Ms J as revenge.
After the decision to go for separation was made, Ms J and her two daughters shifted out and went back to stay at her mum’s place. Mr G immediately changed the padlock to their house. On the day Ms J wanted to take back her own belongings, he did not allow her to bring her friend to help pack and shift her stuff. He also wanted her to finish moving 4 years of belonging within less than 4 hours. That morning, Ms J arrived alone and could only make two trips, despite using 2 large luggage bags to pack as much things as she could.
However, that same afternoon, another incident triggered Mr G. He had originally planned to use her steamboat for his CNY gathering without seeking her permission, and got pissed off when Ms J brought it back. Out of rage, he threatened to throw the rest of Ms J’s belongings, including her full set of new NHR books into the rubbish chute.
When the YMDs and MDs got to know of Mr G’s tyrannical treatment towards their fellow WD, they could not leave this unchallenged and felt that they needed to protect the WD. They rationalised with Mr G calmly and told him to allow Ms J to retrieve her belongings. Despite acceding to the YMDs and MDs’ request to let Ms J take her belongings, deep down, Mr G was infuriated for being challenged by his own comrades which greatly hurt his ego.
HATRED AND GRUDGE
Mr G blamed the WDs for making him lose control over his wife. He accused them of leading her astray. Mr G also blamed the YMD and MDs who had intervened in the above incident and not standing on his side. Mr G once told Ms J, he felt that the whole world is standing on the side of Ms J and against him.
This vengeance caused him to turn not only against his wife but against all his buddies who painstakingly encouraged him for the past 10 years, through his first divorce and numerous work problems and even encouraging his son from his first marriage.
CONCLUSION
I am writing this to expose the ugliness and baseless character of Mr G. What's even worse is how the top leaders of SGS are exploiting this person's story to unfairly target every member of our study group. If we don't speak up, the SGS members will remain unaware of the deceitful actions taking place behind the scenes by the ruthless top leader who is ready to do whatever it takes to persecute due to a personal grudge.
Fair enough, during this period, there were occasions where Mr G would shower Ms J with love, dazzling her with flowers, just like the early days of their relationship.
Despite that, Ms J's life with Mr G was a never-ending rollercoaster of emotional turmoil. Every day felt like a new challenge, in which Ms J described it to be like walking through a minefield. One wrong step she took would set Mr G off to unleash a torrent of criticism and rejection. Just when she thought she could endure no more after weeks of stonewalling, he would suddenly transform, apologize to her and ask for forgiveness. Sometimes, he would also play victim, causing Ms J to empathise with him and pulling Ms J back to him.
However, Ms J knew all too well that this relief from conflict was temporary, as the cycle would inevitably repeat itself. The uncertainty of it all was almost unbearable, a constant reminder that she was powerless in the face of her husband's unpredictable moods.
DIVORCE AND HURT EGO
Throughout these 3 years of anguish, it was my friend and the other WDs who supported Ms J patiently. They encouraged her warmly and guided her back to the Gohonzon. Using Sensei’s guidance, they shared with her there was no escape nor fast solution to solve this issue, but to face it head-on so that she can transform her karma into mission. As she continued to strengthen her faith and chanted an hour of daimoku every day, she developed a life state that is not easily affected by his every mood.
During this period, the YMDs and MDs had also provided Mr G a fair share of support by continuously trying to engage him, whom they regarded as their comrades since their YMD days. They encouraged him and chanted with him to help him break through his own fundamental darkness.
Eventually, by January 2022, the couple decided to go for separation. Despite verbally agreeing to the divorce, Mr G had begun to harbour plans to make things difficult for Ms J as revenge.
After the decision to go for separation was made, Ms J and her two daughters shifted out and went back to stay at her mum’s place. Mr G immediately changed the padlock to their house. On the day Ms J wanted to take back her own belongings, he did not allow her to bring her friend to help pack and shift her stuff. He also wanted her to finish moving 4 years of belonging within less than 4 hours. That morning, Ms J arrived alone and could only make two trips, despite using 2 large luggage bags to pack as much things as she could.
However, that same afternoon, another incident triggered Mr G. He had originally planned to use her steamboat for his CNY gathering without seeking her permission, and got pissed off when Ms J brought it back. Out of rage, he threatened to throw the rest of Ms J’s belongings, including her full set of new NHR books into the rubbish chute.
When the YMDs and MDs got to know of Mr G’s tyrannical treatment towards their fellow WD, they could not leave this unchallenged and felt that they needed to protect the WD. They rationalised with Mr G calmly and told him to allow Ms J to retrieve her belongings. Despite acceding to the YMDs and MDs’ request to let Ms J take her belongings, deep down, Mr G was infuriated for being challenged by his own comrades which greatly hurt his ego.
HATRED AND GRUDGE
Mr G blamed the WDs for making him lose control over his wife. He accused them of leading her astray. Mr G also blamed the YMD and MDs who had intervened in the above incident and not standing on his side. Mr G once told Ms J, he felt that the whole world is standing on the side of Ms J and against him.
This vengeance caused him to turn not only against his wife but against all his buddies who painstakingly encouraged him for the past 10 years, through his first divorce and numerous work problems and even encouraging his son from his first marriage.
CONCLUSION
I am writing this to expose the ugliness and baseless character of Mr G. What's even worse is how the top leaders of SGS are exploiting this person's story to unfairly target every member of our study group. If we don't speak up, the SGS members will remain unaware of the deceitful actions taking place behind the scenes by the ruthless top leader who is ready to do whatever it takes to persecute due to a personal grudge.
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